Ask Uttara: I found out I was pregnant and then lost my baby in the early stages . . .

Question: 

I found out I was pregnant and then lost my baby in the early stages of pregnancy; it's been really difficult for me; how can I heal physically, mentally and emotionally?

Response:

Dearest Reader -- I am so sorry for your loss.  No matter how long you carry a child there is a deep connection.

Begin with rest and relaxation; get the sleep, nutrition and pure water that you need -- those things will help body, mind and spirit.  And though you need lots of rest, be careful not to retreat too far inward -- seek out friends, conversation, social time to the extent it feels good to do so.  Don't feel the need to hide the information from your inner circle; so very many women lose a child, it is actually quite common in the early stages of the pregnancy; talking with others might be helpful to you.

Talk and be open with the child's father; hopefully he is supporting you throughout this process; be sure to keep the communication lines open and try to ask for what you need.  Sometimes men retreat inward because they are unsure how to handle emotions; talk, laugh, cry together.  Ask him to rub your feet; ask him about his grief and emotions.  Make sure he is supported and loved through this process as well.

Take walks; get out in nature; this planet has the ability to heal us all if we allow her the time and space.

Lay down and allow your breath to move throughout your body; keep relaxing and relaxing and allowing and allowing.  It's really quite magical.

Acupuncture might be a good call to balance hormones and energy levels.  Massage would be wonderful for you; gentle loving, healing touch. 

You may want to look at the website of Dr. Robin Markus, her site is nourishinglife.com -- she does a lot with yoga and breathwork to deal with women's issues.  Just met her at a retreat and was really impressed.  She has a good website and some youtube videos you might find helpful.

Be certain you are not feeling any anger towards your body; sometimes we can feel like the body has betrayed us and it has not -- things are going as they should, trust the process.

Perhaps write a letter to your baby; or do a little ritual sending them onto their next incarnation.  Some souls accomplish their work in days; others take years; we all have such an incorrect idea of time here on Earth.

Thinking of you during this difficult time, and sending healing light.

Blessings,

Jill